@Artecus8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4
So, how exactly did you overcome Point No. 3? Did the way the JLs speak to you as an apprentice have any lasting effect on you? When I was indentured, I had built a reputation as one of the top groundman in my company, excellent JATC scores, attendance, proactive, hungry to learn everything, and humble. But, I, too was not prepared for the way they spoke to me. It has made-me gun-shy. Other apprentices tell me to get it out of my head, to snap-out of it, that it gets better with time, that I will laugh about this when I top-out. However, it causes me anxiety because I am older and have never been treated like this, and it is like I convinced myself that they are right that I make mistakes, am an idiot, a dummy, and lost. Ironically, unlike the other apprentices, I have never really been yelled at. It is just what they say, and I let it get percolate my skull. Like I think it will forever be like this and it is a sign I am a moron. What do you think, BCB?
@outcastfisherman69917 หลายเดือนก่อน +3
I know you didn’t ask me, but I talk to our young apprentices who get frustrated with some of our leadership. I tell them to stay positive. Learn from each crew leader. Take the harsh criticism as advice to be better. You have to know WHY you’re here to but be able to get through the nonsense. Psalms 141:5 Let the righteous strike me; it shall be a kindness. And let him rebuke me; it shall be as excellent oil; Let my head not refuse it….. this may seem odd, but I “consider” these these crew leaders as “righteous”. The more I take their criticism as advice, the better my life gets. It all seems unnecessary but the truth is lineman want to surround themselves with people who have thick skin. If you make it, you have brothers for life.
@Artecus7 หลายเดือนก่อน
@@outcastfisherman6991 Thank you for your response. I read it over and over. I work very hard, leadership sees it, come very early, am very eager to learn, take notes, study all weekend, and get very good. But what really frustrates me, what makes me so insecure, is that they say, "it takes a day or a few days to learn this," but then when I show up to do it on the first day and make mistakes, they get so pissed off at me, and then I become paranoid that I was judged, written on, that I made the first impression, a bad one, that nothing going forward will rebuild my reputation, and that he/they then secretly work behind the scenes to get me transferred to another crew. Then on the second day when I show up to do the same work but master it, am flawless, some exhibit surprise, "oh, wow," like they think my second day should be the same as my first. I scratch my head so much, so hard at this, and it causes panic in me. Insecurity. Worry. People have to learn (Growth Mindset, Carol Dweck in her famous book). But some people have this Fixed Mindset about others, that if they are making mistakes, they will forever make mistakes. If they are dumb, they are forever dumb. If they are smart, they are forever smart. It really gets under my soul. It's like I have a narrow window to prove myself and for some that window is one day long, at most 10 hours, and then that's it.. Anyhow, I read your response. Thank you. I tend to be my worst critic.
@Artecus7 หลายเดือนก่อน
@@outcastfisherman6991 I studied that quote. Oh, and I forgot to mention. Sometimes the foreman doesn't say anything at all, is very cool, but one of the apprentices becomes a total belligerent a-hole. My lady says it is a sign of that apprentice's insecurity, jealousy, impatience, and he projects his frustration out on me. I don't know, I want to believe her, but I now live in my head that I am making mistakes and the apprentice is calling me out on being a dummy. That I am struggling way more than most and unfit for the career. I don't know. I have to refuse to let them get in my head. Please tell me more about the "Want to be surrounded by guys who have thick skin." Please explain.
@Artecus7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2
@@outcastfisherman6991 Thank you for the response. I read it thoroughly. I see the wisdom in it.
